Relationships

When a relationship comes to an end, it can feel hard to cope. Good ways to help you understand and accept your feelings may be to:

• talk it through with someone you trust, like close friends or family
• distract yourself with hobbies, films or getting out and about
• create a good network of people around you to help you learn lessons for future relationships

It is normal to feel low after the end of a relationship, but normally, this gets better with time. If you are affected for longer than you would have expected, speak to a trusted adult. It may also be helpful to speak to your GP. 

Healthy relationships can look similar, no matter your age, sexuality or how long you have been together.

All relationships have ups and downs. But they should be based on respect, trust and good communication. This includes relationships with friends, family and partners.

If you feel scared or unhappy, or your partner tries to control what you wear, who you see or what you do, this could be a sign that the relationship is not healthy.

Some relationships can become unhealthy over time. Abuse is not always easy to spot, especially when you are in the relationship.

Talking to someone you trust, such as a friend, family member or another trusted adult, can help you understand what is happening and get support.

Things you should ask yourself about your partner:

• do they stop you from seeing your friends and family?
• do they expect you to change your plans to fit in with them?
• do they criticise the way you look and tell you what to wear?
• do they pressure you to do something sexually that you are not comfortable with?

Online dating can be great, but it’s smart to be cautious by following these practical tips:

Protect your personal info 

• Do not share your full name, home address, workplace, or daily routine early on
• Use the app’s messaging system at first instead of giving out your phone number 
• Be careful with photos and check what’s visible in the background, like street signs or work badges

Watch for these warning signs:

• They rush intimacy, push for off-app chats right away, or talk about “fate” very early
• Their stories do not line up, or they avoid answering basic questions
• They ask for money, gift cards, crypto, or “help” with an emergency- this is a scam

Verify before meeting 

• Do a quick video call, as this will confirm they are who they say they are, and it saves time 
• A simple web search of their first name and photos can catch obvious fakes

First dates 

• Meet in a public place, coffee shops and busy bars are good options 
• Tell a friend where you’re going, who you’re meeting, and when you’ll check in 
• Keep your phone charged and accessible 
• Trust your instincts 
• If something feels off, you do not owe anyone an explanation 
• It’s okay to leave a date early or stop responding if you’re uncomfortable 

Be careful with alcohol 

• Keep an eye on your drink to make sure nothing is added to it
• Don’t feel pressured to drink more than you want 

After the date 

• Take your time before sharing more personal details
• If someone behaves inappropriately, report them in the app; this will help to protect others, too.